Mother Of The Expecting Mother Hosting Shower

Is It Proper For The Mother Of The Mother-To-Be To Host The Baby Shower?

Here are a few questions we have received on the subject...

~ Question sent in by Mary from Greensboro, NC ~

Q. Is it proper for me to host my daughter's baby shower? If not held in the home, I may have a luncheon in a hotel or restaurant.

Our Answer:

Hi Mary,

Thank you for your etiquette question. It is perfectly fine for you to host a baby shower in honor of your daughter. The only person who is not allowed to host the baby shower is the mom-to-be.

As far as etiquette goes, any other family member or close friend can host the baby shower.

I hope that helps. Good Luck planning the baby shower!

Q. Is it ok for the mother of the mother to be, to host her daughter's baby shower?

Our Answer:

Hi,

Thank you for your etiquette question. It is totally fine for the mother of an expecting mother to host a baby shower. In fact, it happens quite often at baby showers. Years past, it was considered a money grab for anyone related to the expecting mom to throw the baby shower. Currently, the etiquette rules state that anyone except the expecting mother can throw the baby shower.

I hope that helps. Good Luck!

Q. Does a mother give her pregnant daughter a baby shower?

Our Answer:

Absolutely! Etiquette rules used to be against any family member hosting the baby shower. But, those rules have changed and it is now totally acceptable for a mother to host a baby shower for a pregnant daughter. It is actually very commonplace these days to see a grandmother-to-be host the baby shower for her pregnant daughter.

I hope that helps. Good Luck with the shower!

~ Question sent in by Sheila~

Q.Is is proper for a parent to host a shower for their child who is expecting?

Our Answer:

Hi there,

Thank you for your etiquette question. Yes, it is totally within etiquette rules for a mom to host a baby shower for her pregnant daughter to be.

Etiquette rules have changed quite a bit and as far as etiquette rules go, the only person who is not allowed to host a baby shower is the mom to be.

I hope that helps!

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Either way would be fin
by: Nisha-Editor

Hi,

I wouldn't ask one of her friends to host the baby shower. If one of them volunteers to host one, it would be fine. If not, as her mom, it would be fine for you to volunteer to host a baby shower for her. If you host a party, you can do a long distance baby shower for all of the friends and family that are spread out around the country. No matter which one you choose, the baby gets celebrated and she gets a party. ;)

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Mother of mother to be hosting
by: Anonymous

My daughter is pregnant with the first grandchild. She has gone to college in the northeast, lived in the south, and is now just recently in the far southeast, with in-laws in the west. We recently relocated as well, therefor there is not really a home base. Everyone she is close to is far away. Because the friends she has made in her new town are recent, I wouldn't feel comfortable asking one of them to host what will be her only shower, therefore having to invite people from all over the country. Is it ok for me as her mother to host something in her new town and then be able to invite all the friends and family she would want? Or should I step out and let a new friend host something small which won't include having all the people she would want from around the country. I don't want to be rude but I don't want her to miss having the ones she loves at her special time.

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The best way to handle it...
by: Nisha- Editor

is to allow your ex husband's wife to sit with the rest of the family at the table with you. I know you won't like this answer, but I cannot see it turning out well if she is excluded from sitting with you. The fact that you are already hearing her talk about wanting to sit at the table tells me that she will be upset at the party if she is not sitting with you. If you want a party that has little drama, put on a smile and let her feel involved and like she is part of the family. The last thing you want at a beautiful celebration that you spend time and effort to put together is to have hurt feelings and possibly a situation that your daughter will feel torn between people she loves. In the future, if you don't want to run into this situation and still are having problems getting along with your ex's wife, make the celebration focused on a circle of friends that would not normally include her...like a party for your daughter and her girlfriends or a party with your side of the family only (no one on your ex husband's side is invited). Hope that helps! Best of luck with the baby shower. :)

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HELP! step mother is overstepping her bounderies
by: Anonymous

I'm in a dilemma. I am hosting a huge baby shower for my only daughter. I am so excited for my first grandchild. My ex-husbands wife whom I've been extremely cordial to is stealing the joy. I am hearing comments from others that she wants to sit at the table with my daughter and I. I want to do right, but after going out of my way to be kind during my daughters wedding and getting hurt, i feel I have to protect myself. What is proper here? Any suggestions?

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Is it ok to invite other ....
by: Anonymous

my daughter-in-law's mother is hosting her baby shower and left out several people that are hurt that they were not invited. Should I ask my daughter-in-law's mother if they can be invited even though they were not on the invitation list?

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It is understandable
by: Nisha- Editor

Hi there,

I can definitely understand. There is so much excitement with a new baby coming and both of you want the party to be perfect. You want it exactly how you've envisioned. The best thing to do is sit down with your daughter to figure out some compromises. Her pregnancy hormones might make it a little difficult, but I am sure you can both figure out something that makes you both happy. I think some consideration needs to be made on her wants and wishes. It is her new baby coming. But you are funding the party, so I am sure you can find ways to put your own design and flair to it. Will it be "exactly" as you envisioned? Probably not, but I am sure it will be beautiful at the end. It just might take a little creativity and give and take to get something you are both happy with. Hope that helps! Best of luck with the baby shower and new baby coming to your family! :)

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Am I in the wrong?
by: Anonymous

I am wondering if I am in the wrong about something.I am giving a shower for my daughter but she has ideas of how she wants things to look I already have things in my mind that I want to do for it .Can you please tell me am I wrong to feel hurt about this?

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I threw all of my daughters' baby showers
by: Maggie

I have thrown all 3 of my daughters a baby shower for each of their pregnancies. It is totally fine to do so. They had so much fun and got such cute things from the showers. It really helps them out with the new baby. So why not?!

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